Although we have long experience in private problems (issues), high security and criminal investigations--- we now focus more on private and relationship matters. Problems we address include:
Business and Organizations Investigations:
We also assist in business matters such as helping investigate theft, embezzlement, drug use, false excuses for absenses (lying) and misuse of property or computers for personal use or for pornography, or other misconduct.
These kinds of problems arise frequently and can damage a private or business relationship. You may be the victim of over-lapping variations of the above situations. For example, internet pornography or online flirting or fantasies at home and at work may grow into infidelity, or risky/dangerous or borderline-criminal behaviors we discuss below.
We have experience with all kinds of problems. Some relate to trust and intimacy, hidden activities or secret past events or behaviors, or matters of misconduct or behavior dangerous to one, both, or the family, children or minors.
Often a hidden old nature shows up in growing adventurism or secrecy and risky or irresponsible behaviors that can damage the relatioship, family or finances. A smart spouse, fiance' or partner is senstitive to odd or secretive behavior and may wish to "know what is going on" before it becomes serious harm to someone. They may do the straying partner a favor by "nipping it in the bud" when it is still only very embarrassing or infrequent and can perhaps be improved by counseling or closer understanding. Or it may be simply smart to be know what happened already to see what could happen if the behavior continues or they give the partner "one more chance".
Everyone in a relationship needs to be aware how often carelessness, adventurism or lack of fair consideration of the uninformed partner's interests can grow into repeated ever-more serious deceptions, and even criminal behavior and/or loss of a family's assets or destruction of the marriage. It is a reality that many partners are selfish and "want it all". They want the quiet comfortable marriage but they want adventure and possibly a girlfriend or boyfriend (or both) "on the side". Or they want to gamble with family finances or encumber property by loans or irresponsible investments. We see it all the time.
The alert partner needs to know what commonly goes on, what to look for, and make sure that there is hopefully more than "a feeling" (but that can have some weight) that there is something wrong. It can also be irresponsible to accuse someone when there is no real evidence, perhaps only opportunity or lost time.
Sexual or Romantic Infidelity:
Infidelity can have different meanings to different people. To some it is only repeated sexual and emotional favoring of others in multiple affairs with neglect for the original partner. To others, it can be lack of frequent intimacy with occassional emotional attachment to or fondness of someone else.
The more common infidelity between the two above extremes is the once or rare slip of one partner in a tempting situation with usually some conflict, resentment or lack of intimacy in a relationship. Counselors deal with the causes and solutions. We help find out what really happened. Frequent flirting can be a bad sign, but minor flirting may not mean much. A polygraph can relieve suspicions.
Often affairs stem from tempting or too-close work relationships, excessive travel or absense of one partner, and other situations, often unplanned and embarrassing afterwards. The partner who strayed may regret it but feel trapped and will often naturally try to hide it. If they hide something, they may feel ashamed or may actually have intended to protect their first love from the hurt of knowing. These are the kinds of real situations that are not always a partner being completely bad. These are the kinds of things we find out.
The internet, pornography, liasons and image sharing:
The internet, social forums, and pornography and bombardment by website pop-up offers of local "hook up" sex present another tempting environment where someone feeling neglected by or angry at their mate may "act out" and likewise be ashamed later... or not!! Again they may not want to explain what happened, or they may simply want the comforts of a stable home while prowling the neighborhood for sexual encounters. The truth regarding these behaviors can be found by a polygraph.
Online liasons or fantasy chat and sexy image sharing are common, and may never develop beyond some risky or shameful entertainment, but a partner may want to know exactly what goes on, especially whether there was any "role playing", offer to meet or meeting, and with whom. This is where a few people who would not ordinarily "act out" might be tempted by anonymity or an inappropriate offer. Sometimes these online liasons lead to dangerous or even criminal conduct involving pornography or solicitation. A partner deserves to know what went on for possibilities of danger, disease, possible blackmail or even the risk of serious legal claims or charges.
Strange Behavior, Drug use, gambling or bad investments:
The above online sharing or online "hook-ups" or acting out through strip clubs, massage parlors can show a strange, risk-seeking or possibly dangerous side of a partner that was never suspected. It can show a hidden disrespect for the opposite sex and the importance of committed relationships. Or it can mean other things are wrong with the marriage which should be discussed with a counselor. We can help find out the extent of such behavior (such as 130 times or 3 times, etc.).
The anonymity of the internet and chat rooms or groups encourage strange behavior and may encourage joining in "role-playing". Seldom do these go in healthy directions. A partner deserves to know what goes on, what hidden unhealthy interests exist (if any). A danger to relationships is that secret intimacy and sharing of "unusual" interests may delude as normality and contrast with "boring" or "missing" intimacy in a marriage or relationship.
Sometimes the issue is simply drug or excessive alcohol use, such as hearing that someone did something on a trip. Drug testing may not always get the job done. A partner deserves to know of drug use or repeated failures to abide by a promise to stay away from drugs. Likewise gambling can be destructive and hidden. A partner needs to know the extent and recurrances to see if there is a problem, or if promises were kept.
Bad investments or helping friends with loans can be addictive. It is a form of gambling to gamble money on "legitimate" "opportunities", like a hairbrained "high cash flow investment" program they may try to hide. You deserve to know if and how family funds were squandered behind your back.
Near-criminal sexual or dangerous behavior:
Sometimes online or risky behavior escalates with anonymity and availability, such as by easy online gambling, pyramid schemes, fantasy role-playing, solicitation for sexual liasons, viewing, sharing or creating of illegal pornography or solicitation of or liason with a minor.
Not only online, but neighborhood or across-town liasons and soliciation are not uncommon. The internet makes locations and willingness readily-findable for liasons. You may want to know, but understand the consequences (see below) if the other party has strayed into any of this, or other near-criminal experimentation.
Is there deception about who they hang out with or pretend to be? Pretending to be someone else or spreading lies online can result in charges of fraud or libel, or lead to association with people with dangerous misguided beliefs or behaviors. Association can result in conspiracy charges when one or two say the wrong thing (common in the "freeman" or tax protester movement).
On or offline, at work or elsewhere association with shady characters can end in money losses, threats, frame-up to take raps, drug use, and even theft, blackmail or extortion for money to buy drugs. Your partner may have been in the wrong place, then enticed as easy prey for criminals who prey on the unsuspecting, much like spies were enticed into "compromising positions" by sexy naked bait.
Even being around the wrong people at the wrong time, or talking to them on the phone has resulted in charges of criminal conspiracy. Many innocent people go to jail by being around the wrong people. You deserve to know of any associations with shady characters, drug users, gamblers, pyramid schemers, deadbeats who borrow money, and minors or "pretend minors" who will put your partner in jail for years for talking to a pretend-minor about sex.
Finally there are other dangerous or even criminal behavior, such as exposing oneself, peeping, taking pictures without permission, taking any pictures of minors in public, or having any physical contact with a minor or taking sexual advantage of someone drunk, even fondling. You may or may not wish to know about such because the repercussions are extreme and the person may be prosecuted. We advise anyone taking the polygraph that they have the right to not incriminate themselves. As always, we advise both parties to talk to each other privately, calmly and thoughtfully as to the implicataions, and perhaps to a lawyer if there is suspicion. Any allegations which may lead to such disclosures are extremely serious nowadays. Any decision for a polygraph in such circumstances should be carefully considered. The suspicous party should understand that they could destroy the other person's entire life. We disclose these facts as material to your decision.
Hidden early history, hidden disease, risky history, child abuse, sexual misconduct:
A partner often has some baggage sometimes better left packed away in the closet. But some secret histories may be relevant to resufacing or resultant behaviors, such as from early child abuse, early sexual assault, incest, criminal conduct, or other strange behavior or experiences.
The person may even have done something awful, perhaps in a joke gone bad, and tried to put it behind them and change. The person may have had some psychological problems or their family some health or mental issues undisclosed to you. You may or may not want to know, or whether the person knew of a risk they did not tell you about. You may want to let that sleeping dog lay.
A common non-disclosure is of some sexual abuse, homo-sexual experience, or homosexual or bisexual tendencies.
Common non-disclosures include disease, such as an STD, herpes, tuberculosis, malaria, lieshmanaisis (latin countries), Hepetitis-B or C, a genetic disease, a tendency to disease or birth defects, or AIDS.
Even long-past possible child abuse or sexual misconduct by the partner or the perpetrator (or parent) may be prosecuted decades later, so this is a very serious matter.
Past romances, affairs, secrets, behaviors or mental issues:
Whether you want to know hidden early prior history, relationships, background secrets, behaviors, beliefs, attitudes or psychotic episodes they never told you about are things you have to decide after careful thought. They may have simply changed for the better or avoided something they wanted to forget about, to focus on a new life. Remember, there are always two viewpoints. One may be misguided, irrational or negligent, but not necessarily malicious. Don't misinterpret avoidance as always malevolent.
Deception about money, spending, work or property matters (loss, waste, hiding of):
Most of this was covered above. Sometimes a partner hides income, assets, inheritances, property, or loses or wastes them. Gambling, bad loans, crazy pyramid schemes, misconduct at work, co-signing with deadbeats, spending on drugs, women, massages, modeling studios or strip joints can be revealed by the polygraph.
Separation, Divorce, Accusations of child abuse or hiding of money or assets:
Too frequently true and false accusations surround divorce proceedings---regarding money, hidden assets, child abuse, physical or sexual abuse, affairs or infidelity, past support of a family, lack of companionship or consortium, and so on. Sometimes a lawyer will recommend polygraphs to see whether it is the accuser or accused who fails the polygraph exam. If the results are consistent (accuser fails and accused passes), the lawyer can pursue further discovery and sworn testimony and witnesses.
This may be part of the defense when a spouse stoops to accusing false child abuse. Then again the allegations may be true. This is a matter for a lawyer to decide. Consult competent legal advice in such circumstances. We are available to help.
Finding out if there may be undisclosed money or assets is something that can be done without so many legal implications as abuse or assault. This includes ascertaining grounds for divorce when property has disappeared in which your interest may still exist.
In private and family matters, it often takes years to know someone. Most people had some non-disclosures which might best be left alone. But sometimes past or recent behaviors are important to "really know" the person you thought you knew when under the spell of love in the beginning. Old behaviors may return or unhealthy or destructive new ones develop. The partner may stop caring and undermine the relationship, consciously or unconsciously.
The kinds of behaviors and issues listed above can eventually add up to "deal breakers" or simply go past a line to be tolerated. Counselors often deal with issues of setting boundaries, assertiveness and secret behaviors that undermine a relationship. In one party's mind the many disloyal acts and deceptions may seem not-so-important or serious. ("What he/she doesn't know won't hurt him/her.) The deceptions, often by non-disclosure, distortion, half-truths or actively misleading a partner often add up to much more in the viewpoint of the person being deceived or betrayed.
What we do at TPC is bring out "the rest of the story" in a professional examination. If a partner is deceptive about somthing serious, by anyone's fairness standards the other party has "a right to know". A relationship counselor can help decide whether you "really want the truth", or help decide what to do after serious deception is revealed (if there is any).
It is easier to clarify issues using a confidential experienced third-party like Mr. Bean who has seen most relationship issues before, who offers an impartial hearing and knowledgeable input. When there is deception, Michael Park and associates, trained for decades in detective work, can find it out.
Uncertainty about deception, like a thorn, can weaken, cripple or destroy a relationship that might have made it. Finding whether there was deception, and the extent of it and perhaps causes---helps decide the future of the relationship, whether there needs to be more self-awareness to not mislead, whether circumstances snowballed to "no turning back", or maybe suspicions were from misperceptions or "thinking distortions".
Special circumstances, exceptions and reasons to--or not to---take a polygraph:
Sometimes one person in the couple is partly deceptive, not as seriously as suspected. This may be something where both partners need to honestly examine what they are doing (not necessarily equally). Counseling might be the best solution, and often is, at least for one of the parties. Usually if the suspected person is willing to take a polygraph, they at least care enough to want the relationship to continue. They may sincerely want you and the relationship to continue but have the right and prefer not to incriminate themselves in something serious that they will not do again. People make mistakes and want to change, but can't talk about it for legal reasons. That kind of circumstance-possibility deserves long careful thought. That is, time in prison for one mistake may not be something you want, or even something you really want to probe into.
Usually suspicions are based on some reason ... some evidence or behavior (this works also with business partners and employees). The interview or polygraph allows examination of the basis of suspicions and may bring out short-comings on one or both sides, which is crucial to see what happened and why, for improvement. There have been occassions where a person accused due to suspicious behavior reacted in anger to later do what they were accused of. Both sides may have contributed to the problem (often not equally) and may decide to work on it.
Serious deceptions or hidden harmful conduct is not easily-concealed. A highly-trained polygraph expert listens, asks questions and observes sensitive areas and what suspicions and evidence exist. The sensitive points upon which to base questions for the polygraph will show up.
Nervousness or eagerness to take the polygraph:
A completely innocent party will often (not always) be eager to prove their innocence, especially when reassured of either "no deception" or "indeterminate" at worst if the person was not deceptive. Normal nervousness does not usually prevent valid polygraph results.
Natural reluctance or fear of a wrong result is minimized with an expert like Mr. Bean, who has been called on to review charts and methods of other polygraphers, and for large security organizations. Clients can rest assured that TPC polygraphs will have the highest reliability attaintable (87-95%), and help reveal points that neither party may have fully considered.
Both the person who is suspicious and the accused can get a fair hearing and find resolution by questions that Michael may pose.
In some cases, TPC may decline to conduct a polygraph where the grounds for suspicion are very weak or in other cases where Mr. Park feels another approach, the right to say nothing or possibly legal advice or counseling may be more appropriate. Texas Polygraph Counselors puts trying to do what is best for your well-being and relationship ahead of just doing more polygraphs, unlike some others.
In the relationship problems and issues we see, the following are fairly common:
Possible Warning signs in a relationship: Ask .. Do we need help?
Sexual Related Problems or Concerns:
Possibly serious matters:
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